The Timeless Art of Seduction

March 2, 2011 1 comment

I’m never one to pass up the chance to squeeze in a Seinfeld reference wherever I can, but there’s really nothing like gay rights to get me to come back to blogging. (We’ll see how long I last this time around.)

Thanks to my Facebook Friendship with David Manes, I’ve discovered HU Queer Press. It’s an e-zine (I nearly typed “online e-zine”, which, to me, is the equivalent of saying “ATM machine” or “PIN number”. Ugh.) that focuses on gay life at conservative places, particularly Harding University.

One thing I was pleased to see that they covered was the eternally irritating “Why do they have to shove it down our throats?” argument. That’s driven me nuts for years, and I can imagine my frustration doesn’t even compare to that of someone actually living it.

A big problem (maybe not a “problem,” maybe just a “difference” yada yada) of mine is that the average person is pretty incapable of comprehending logic beyond a certain point. It makes me angry, which makes me look, to those people, like someone who can’t accept a difference of opinion. What I can’t accept is the inability of critical thought. It’s a lack of critical thought which makes people so scared of homosexuality, and my hatred of that, combined with my tendency to love people until they give me a reason not to ( Yes, this love is there. It’s hidden underneath the misanthropy–hey, I’m an enigma, baby.), that makes this whole issue so special and so infuriating to me.

On FB a while back, I posted a note called “Arguments I Find Stupid and Why”. I actually lost several FB friends over it, two because of the post mentioned below. To be fair, it was a direct response to their views; however, it was nothing I hadn’t already told them. It’s a bit outdated now, as DADT was, in fact, repealed, but it addresses the illogic behind the gay agenda/shoving it down our throats argument:

I’m not a homophobe, but “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” is OK/appropriate/not harmful because the military is work, and your personal life is irrelevant.
Perhaps. But it seems as though I’ve mentioned a husband or boyfriend or date a time or two at work. Homosexuals aren’t fighting for the right to come to work and announce how much fun they had last night ass fucking or eating pussy, any more than you would do that. They want to be able to say, “Last night my {same sex partner} and I went to the store/watched a good movie/decided to go on vacation”–just like you do–without worrying that it will cost them their job. If you have never once made any remote mention of any aspect whatsoever of your personal life at work, then this is a valid argument for you to make. Otherwise, you are a homophobe, or at the very least acting like one, and you should knock it the fuck off.

These people couldn’t offer a single basis for their disagreement other than saying, “Well, that’s just how I feel.” Well, how I feel is that that isn’t good enough. If it’s consensual, if the people are adults, and if all parties are human, then no rights are being violated and it’s none of my damn business (unless, of course, I am one of the parties involved).

I will admit that I see the Church of Christ view. I do not agree (perish the thought! ;)), but I do see how they can interpret the Bible that way, and I see how it can be very difficult for them to see it differently. It’s what we were always taught. I was 18 before I even began to consider that hey, maybe it’s not a choice. But I think the point that we used to use the Bible to defend slavery is a good one. (Incidentally, I’ve asked numerous CofC scholars how they can defend the scripture telling slaves to return to their masters. None of them have really been able to. )

Speaking of choice, there was an article in a 2008 edition of The Los Angeles Times that made an argument I’ve been making for ages, only far more eloquently. I believe homosexuality is something you are, not something you choose. That said, what if it were a choice? Would it make a difference in how it should be treated by the government? I say no. Here’s a link:
Gay is a choice?

So prepare your mind to be open, polish your critical thinking skills, and read the e-zine. Even if you don’t change your mind, you might change the way you treat homosexuals. It’s weird to me that as a Christian, I could have close friends who had sex outside of marriage, who’d been divorced, who’d had an abortion–I could forgive them that. But a gay person? Uh, no, we kinda backed away from that. It was wrong. So what if it is? Is it any more wrong than divorce or abortion or promiscuity? I’d guess no. (I’m able to remember how I felt and behaved as a Christian, even over a decade later.)

And I think that’s all my rambling for now. I hope there will be more, because it makes me feel better, even if it bores the pants off everyone else. 😛


My Economic Stimulus and NASA

April 19, 2010 Leave a comment

So I was in the mood for a non sequitur.

I just spent a bloody fortune (well, a bloody fortune to me, anyway) on new clothes and shoes. I’ve lost enough weight that my pants are falling off, and most of my clothes are embarrassingly ragged, because when I was with the abusive twit, he never left me enough money to buy anything new. So, money was spent. More money will be spent to replace the TV the crackheads stole, and the dog needs a minor yet expensive surgical procedure, which means I may be 40 before I’ve saved up enough money to get my own damn apartment.


I’m spending, spending, spending, and it’s money I earned*, so I’m doing my part.

About the NASA thing: I don’t think it’s a great idea. Not really that it’s a bad idea so much as it is a distraction. The NASA budget, huge as it is, is only a very tiny sliver of the national budget. Making this change will do virtually nothing to relieve any of our financial pressure; it’s being done because most people don’t know that. That annoys me.

But here’s where my confusion lies: when Bush wants to privatize social security, it’s a brilliant idea. When Obama wants to impose more regulations on private health insurance companies it’s a terrible idea. OK, so we want more free trade and less government involvement. Got it. So when Obama wants to make some of NASA’s duties the responsibility of private companies, that’s…bad? Huh?

*Since I work for the government, though, I guess I’m still living off taxpayers. Man, I just can’t catch a break! :p


March 21, 2010 2 comments

It actually passed. A major health care overhaul that will actually make a difference has passed. I’d have liked for a few things to be done differently–such as a public option and CAREFUL, CAREFUL use of federal funds for abortion–but I didn’t even expect this much.

President Obama, members of Congress: thank you. I honestly didn’t think it would happen.

Car Insurance vs. Health Insurance

November 10, 2009 8 comments

I’m painfully tired of this argument, so I thought I would explain it here, really slowly, in case you’re still confused.

The argument that I keep hearing from the bootstrappers, in voices dripping with such scorn that it seems like they actually believe it’s logical, is that the comparison between car and health insurance is invalid because you aren’t required to have car insurance if you don’t have a car–but, if the current biil passes, you will be required to have health care or face a fine.

Here’s the reason the comparison is valid: every driver is required to have coverage. If you don’t own a car, but you borrow one, the owner’s insurance better cover any accidents you have. If not, you’ll be in trouble. So yes, you do have to have coverage even if you don’t own a car–just like a minor is required to have health insurance, but her guardians are required to pay for it. This is so that if another driver damages my car, I’m not out the money.

“But what about those people who never drive,” you ask, sure that you’ve finally bested the liberal who’s watching in sympathy as you writhe in misguided glee. You’re absolutely right. People who never drive or ride in automobiles, do not need a single bit of car insurance. So if you can provide absolute, 100% positive, cannot fail proof that you will never get a disease, injury, or ailment that will require treatment or spread to others, I’m pretty confident you can get out of having health insurance.

Do you get it now? Probably not, because you were distracted by Rush’s big head (oooh, shiny!) halfway through. But I feel better.


Just so you know, I’m not fond of the current bill. While I think people should have health care, I don’t believe this bill does enough to provide it to the ones who need it, and is too hard on the people for whom it neglects to provide. But that doesn’t make the car/health comparison any more valid.

If you agree, feel free to comment. If you disagree, feel free to comment. I love discussion. But follow my rules, or I’ll block you. It’s my blog, and it’s a dictatorship, not a democracy. 😉

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(Still) Finding Myself

November 5, 2009 3 comments

This is pretty much stream-of-consciousness. Please don’t expect much.

It’s become somewhat of a joke, the idea of taking time off to find oneself, an excuse not to go to school or get a job. I wasn’t able to take any time off to do it, but I think the idea is sound. But I don’t think the process ends. I think a person should be constantly striving to know himself or herself better, so he or she can be the best person possible, and that process lasts until death.

I grew up in the Church of Christ, and although my parents never discouraged me from thinking for myself, I never did. It was a lot easier to go with the flow. I went to a CoC school and church, and my friends were CoC and my family was CoC and we all agreed on the important things and life was good.

But life wasn’t good.

I’ve suffered from depression for as long as I can remember. I realized that for someone who was supposed to be alive in Christ, I was awfully miserable. I was also becoming more and more uncomfortable with my passive role in my faith. I never intended to leave the faith, or even Christianity. My goal was to become so sure of my own faith that I could successfully defend it. What happened is that I realized I didn’t know myself at all; I only knew that what I thought was Christ either wasn’t Christ, or that Christ wasn’t enough to overcome what was wrong with me. (I later had a couple of major manic episodes and realized that lithium is what it takes to overcome what’s wrong with me. 😉 )

I’ve also been an extremely sensitive, sympathetic person for as long as I can remember. I found it harder and harder to accept that the God we called “loving” and “just” could reject people who had never heard of him, or who hadn’t correctly followed a book written in dynamic languages and compiled and translated by fallible humans. And why would he make some people so inclined toward behavior that made either him or them unhappy?

Only very recently have I begun to see glimmers of things I might like about myself. Only recently have I begun not to constantly (and I do mean constantly) worry about what every single other person was thinking and just be myself. This didn’t happen until I decided that people weren’t sinful or bad or wrong because they were Muslim or gay or atheist or single parents or…lots of other things.

Not all Christians are blind followers. Not all are hypocrites. Not all are judgmental. But I was, and now I’m not. And I didn’t like myself, and now I’m starting to. I like that I’ve gone from being a hypocritical, judgmental, blind follower to being someone who is accepting and open-minded and tries to practice what she preaches. And I plan to keep bettering myself. And I find it highly illogical that the real God–whoever or whatever it is–would have a problem with that.

Obama the Indoctrinator

September 5, 2009 Leave a comment

This talk about keeping kids home on Tuesday is just absurd. I’m seldom surprised anymore, but I am surprised about this. I’m still not back into the blogging game, so let me just make two points to those who are so appalled by the upcoming speech.

  • Reagan and Bush 41 both made speeches to the nation’s schoolchildren, despite claims made by such mental giants as Rick Sanchez.
  • Even if the speech is partisan, you are doing your children a disservice by downplaying their critical reasoning skills. You’re also not showing too much faith in your own ability to have reasonable discussions with your children–but then, you’re not seeming too bright at this point anyway.

I’m going to link to an article on I normally wouldn’t use such a source, because even I find that it leans too heavily to the left. (Of course, I did just see an ad for Ann Coulter, so maybe I misjudged…) The article, however, is just filled with facts: provable, hard facts.

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I Don’t Care Who You Are…

August 31, 2009 2 comments


That’s just funny.

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